Hey readers! Can't believe it's 2016 already! Where has the time gone?!?! Don't you feel that the world moves to fast? At least I do. Anyway, any #2016wish guys? I still have the same old wish since 2013 lol. 'I wish I could find my true love'. Well, something hasn't change, but something has change. I'm getting older every year! I'll be 19 this year!! Everyone keep asking me like 'do you have a boyfriend?' everytime I said 'no' they'll tease me for being 'Jomblo' (Forever alone)!! Sad isn't it? Well I've waited this long and hopefully it's worthed.. nahhh... not 'hopefully', but it HAVE TO BE WORTHED!!! I waited long enough and I have to find exactly the right person!! I don't want to fall in love with the wrong person, stupidly marry him, and ends up like my parents! NO WAY!! THAT'S ONE OF MY BIGGEST FEAR!!
Anyway guys, I was single on my first day of writing this post. But not anymore, I found love. I'll write about him later, I have to finish this one first lol.
Anyway guys, I was single on my first day of writing this post. But not anymore, I found love. I'll write about him later, I have to finish this one first lol.
Oh well, let's go back to the topic. As I mentioned in my previews blog (Divergent Theory of Relationships) today I'm gonna write about my relationship goals. If you haven't read it I suggest you to read it first, because this post have something to do with it.
As I mentioned before, there are 6 Factions of relationship. Abnegation (Marriage), Dauntless (in domestic partnership), Amity (in a relationship), Erudite (happy single), Factionless stage one (Friendzones), Factionless stage 2 (forever Alone).
But mine only have 4 factions guys. Waittttt..... FOUR?!?! LIKE THE NUMBER?!?! <4 LOL... Forgive me Brad, but I'm still in love with Four somehow XD. Anyway... Take a look at this picture below
So it's, Factionless stage one (which I've passed that), Erudite (in case I failed Amity, I don't wanna be thrown in Forever Alone), Amity (where am I right now), and Abnegation (where I'm planning to be next year). I'm gonna explain a bit more below
My FOUR factions
Factionless Stage 1
Let's start with Factionless stage 1, a.k.a Friendzone. That's the faction I was in before and I'm over it yayy!! I told you about how I get friendzoned and stuff before right? and I'm finally done with that!! I found my true love already!!
Amity
Before I said anything, I really have to say that EXPECTATIONS NEVER MEETS REALITY (You'll get it once you read it)
I think I'm gonna explain about Amity first before Erudite. Based on what I wrote before in 'Divergent Theory of Relationship', people who are in a relationship spends 80% of their 'togetherness' with love, happiness, laughter, romantic things, hugs, kisses, ect. Since I experience it myself right now, I think it's more like 50% of those things, and 50% of war!!! Well it was like 100% fairy tale at first, but it's getting like a tidal wave lately. I don't know if it's true that relationships only look good at first, you know I'm not really well-experienced on this, it's my first one guys! Anyway, he said he's so sure that I'm the one for him and he's planning on marrying me next year. But I don't know guys, it's not that I'm not ready, but I'm just kinda feel unsure about him, I know he loves me but we really had got into 2 big fights in a month (you know how nasty I am in fights), and I asked him for a breakup on valentines day and he calls me a 'quitter' (a.k.a PANSYCAKE), well I know I'm not a quitter, and we end up solving the problem after that. But still....... I don't know why my love to him is kinda decreasing right now, I start talking less to him (more like "I'm starting to ignore him right now"), it just feels like I needed a break from this. I don't know what might happens, I'll just keep praying and ask God to show me the path He provides me. If he's the one then I'm sure I'm gonna make it next year, but if not I've prepared a space for myself, which is......... ERUDITE!!! I won't give up on love and end up throwing myself to 'Forever Alone', NO WAY!!!!
Erudite
I explain about Amity first, because Erudite is just something I put below Amity to avoid falling to Factionless. It's like the net in Divergent when Tris first jumped into Dauntless, there's a net below to avoid her from falling straight to the ground right? That's how it works (picture below)
After a month of this bloody tidal wave relationship, I'm starting to think that there is a lot of amazing reasons to be single! Yes, I can spend time on my blogs more, read more novels, spend more time with friends, hang out with guys without anyone getting jealous, having some 'tinder dates', and many more! I can do the things that I love! I mean I know I won't be a 'miss independent' and stay there forever.... But it's a good waiting spot! It's a place to enjoy my life while waiting for the right guy to arrive.
Abnegation
Ok guys, I know it sounds crazy when I said that I'll be in Abnegation next year. Well that's what we planned, he's totally sure about it, but I'm not. Especially when our relationshit...... relationship I mean, is in this kind of situation, makes me more unsure. We'll just see how it goes. I still wanna think about that and choose my choices wisely, like I said I don't wanna end up stuck in an unhappy marriage like my parents!! We'll just let time to answer my questions, will I be falling in love with him again? Or my love to him will just continues to decrease? Whatever happens just 'keep calm and Jesus take the wheel'.
Anyway, recognise something missing here? Yes, Dauntless! Well I don't believe in 'being brave' in a relationship. I mean if we are actually ready to take a step up from Amity, and we're sure that we are actually meant for each other, why don't we just take it seriously into a forever happily ever after? That's actually being more brave than Dauntless isn't it? Just like what Four says
As I mentioned before, there are 6 Factions of relationship. Abnegation (Marriage), Dauntless (in domestic partnership), Amity (in a relationship), Erudite (happy single), Factionless stage one (Friendzones), Factionless stage 2 (forever Alone).
But mine only have 4 factions guys. Waittttt..... FOUR?!?! LIKE THE NUMBER?!?! <4 LOL... Forgive me Brad, but I'm still in love with Four somehow XD. Anyway... Take a look at this picture below
So it's, Factionless stage one (which I've passed that), Erudite (in case I failed Amity, I don't wanna be thrown in Forever Alone), Amity (where am I right now), and Abnegation (where I'm planning to be next year). I'm gonna explain a bit more below
My FOUR factions
Factionless Stage 1
Let's start with Factionless stage 1, a.k.a Friendzone. That's the faction I was in before and I'm over it yayy!! I told you about how I get friendzoned and stuff before right? and I'm finally done with that!! I found my true love already!!
Amity
Before I said anything, I really have to say that EXPECTATIONS NEVER MEETS REALITY (You'll get it once you read it)
I think I'm gonna explain about Amity first before Erudite. Based on what I wrote before in 'Divergent Theory of Relationship', people who are in a relationship spends 80% of their 'togetherness' with love, happiness, laughter, romantic things, hugs, kisses, ect. Since I experience it myself right now, I think it's more like 50% of those things, and 50% of war!!! Well it was like 100% fairy tale at first, but it's getting like a tidal wave lately. I don't know if it's true that relationships only look good at first, you know I'm not really well-experienced on this, it's my first one guys! Anyway, he said he's so sure that I'm the one for him and he's planning on marrying me next year. But I don't know guys, it's not that I'm not ready, but I'm just kinda feel unsure about him, I know he loves me but we really had got into 2 big fights in a month (you know how nasty I am in fights), and I asked him for a breakup on valentines day and he calls me a 'quitter' (a.k.a PANSYCAKE), well I know I'm not a quitter, and we end up solving the problem after that. But still....... I don't know why my love to him is kinda decreasing right now, I start talking less to him (more like "I'm starting to ignore him right now"), it just feels like I needed a break from this. I don't know what might happens, I'll just keep praying and ask God to show me the path He provides me. If he's the one then I'm sure I'm gonna make it next year, but if not I've prepared a space for myself, which is......... ERUDITE!!! I won't give up on love and end up throwing myself to 'Forever Alone', NO WAY!!!!
Erudite
I explain about Amity first, because Erudite is just something I put below Amity to avoid falling to Factionless. It's like the net in Divergent when Tris first jumped into Dauntless, there's a net below to avoid her from falling straight to the ground right? That's how it works (picture below)
After a month of this bloody tidal wave relationship, I'm starting to think that there is a lot of amazing reasons to be single! Yes, I can spend time on my blogs more, read more novels, spend more time with friends, hang out with guys without anyone getting jealous, having some 'tinder dates', and many more! I can do the things that I love! I mean I know I won't be a 'miss independent' and stay there forever.... But it's a good waiting spot! It's a place to enjoy my life while waiting for the right guy to arrive.
Abnegation
Ok guys, I know it sounds crazy when I said that I'll be in Abnegation next year. Well that's what we planned, he's totally sure about it, but I'm not. Especially when our relationshit...... relationship I mean, is in this kind of situation, makes me more unsure. We'll just see how it goes. I still wanna think about that and choose my choices wisely, like I said I don't wanna end up stuck in an unhappy marriage like my parents!! We'll just let time to answer my questions, will I be falling in love with him again? Or my love to him will just continues to decrease? Whatever happens just 'keep calm and Jesus take the wheel'.
Anyway, recognise something missing here? Yes, Dauntless! Well I don't believe in 'being brave' in a relationship. I mean if we are actually ready to take a step up from Amity, and we're sure that we are actually meant for each other, why don't we just take it seriously into a forever happily ever after? That's actually being more brave than Dauntless isn't it? Just like what Four says
“I have a theory that selflessness and bravery aren’t all that different. All your life you’ve been training to forget yourself, so when you’re in danger, it becomes your first instinct. I could belong to Abnegation just as easily ”
- Four (Divergent page 336)So I guess Abnegation is like taking bravery to a whole new level. Or in another word is "Brave enough to be Selfless", brave enough to forget your self as 'me' and make it into 'us'. Abnegation is the place where I wanna be after Amity, it doesn't have to be with him, it could be someone else that's actually my REAL 'true love', I just wanna spend the rest of my live loving someone who actually loves me. That's how I want my happily ever after to be, I don't mean to judge someone who's in Dauntless, we all have our own personal 'happily ever after plans'.
