Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Divergent Theory of Relationship

Hello readers! its been almost a month since the last time I post something aye?  Been terribly bussy lately! I have work, work experience, final exam........ GOSH!!! I DON'T EVEN HAVE TIME TO BREATHE!!! Oh well... it's over!! I'm close to summer holiday now!! yayyy!!! 

Ok readers, today I'm gonna write about relationships theories according to Divergent!  Before I start, let me tell you a little bit about Divergent (in case you haven't read or watch it).  So Divergent is about Chicago in the future which the society is divided into 6 faction: Abnegation (The Selfless), Dauntless (The Brave), Amity (The Peaceful), Candor (The Honest), Erudite (The Smart), and Factionless (people who don't belongs to any factions).  

You know what readers?  We don't have to wait for this to happen in Chicago, this already happen now! In the world we live in! TODAY!!  THIS HAPPENS IN OUR LOVE LIFE READERS!! But it's not exactly the same guys.  Divergent faction might have a fair and same rights between each factions (except The Factionless).  And in this case it's more like the pyramid caste system from the ancient Indian history book! And in Divergent, you can only change your faction once.  But here you might move to another faction that you want to join with, but you should have a good luck or you might have to struggle for that (side effect: you might get thrown to the factionless)! I know you all must be confuse, so I make an illustration below.  Just picture this is our faction system today! 



So in this world, Abnegation is for the couple that are married.  Dauntless for In Domestic Partnership.  In a relationship which is Amity.  Some couples in these 3 mentioned faction might want to add some more 'special features' in their relationship which is Candor a.k.a in an open relationship.  Erudite for the happy singles.  And I divided Factionless into 2 parts which is Friendzoned and Forever alone!  Keep reading guys! I'm explaining in details right now!

Erudite (Happy Single)


First of all let's find out about the lower faction in our "Faction Relationship Caste" here (We'll keep factionless for the last, because it have relation with the other factions).  According to the Divergent story, Erudite is the faction that values knowledge, so it's more like the 'nerds'.  I think this faction suits the Happy Singles who thinks that they don't believe in love but they actually LOVE themselves without realizing it!  For those people who says "I don't need a man! I'm happy being single!" ; "being single is amazing!! I have all of my freedom here!!"; ect, just admit it! you said that because you're madly in love with yourselves and you don't have rooms for another person to live in your life!! And I bet you're NOT just fall in love with yourselves, you're also falls in love with the thing you love! Let's just take an example from Erudite.  So Erudite is the only faction that have the least social life! Why? Because they're madly in love with their books, knowledge, 'good grades', research, science, ect!!  So apparently those people who loves being single is actually in a relationship with themselves and the things they love (such as hobbies, books, knowledge, good grades, studying, computer, games, ect).

Amity (In a Relationship)

Let's move on to Amity !  Amity is a faction that values peace, kindness and harmony. Basically, Amity is a step up from Erudite.  So 80% of Erudites who's just tired of being single (mostly feel empty with themselves) decided to make room for someone else and started a relationship with that person if they succeeded.  If not? They might end up in friendzoned (Factionless stage 1).  Couples who's in a relationship, they share 50% of their life with each other.  And 80% of their time together is full of love, happiness, laughter, romantic things, hugs, kisses, ect.  I think that's just the most perfect stage of this Faction Caste System aye?

Dauntless (In Domestic Partnership)




Dauntless is the faction that values bravery, courage, toughness, and fearlessness.  So technically Dauntless is all about 'Be Brave' (the words that's tattooed on my wrist *LOL*).  Anyway (back to the topic XD), So couple who are in a domestic partnership is couple who's in a relationship and they live together, am I right? But they're just not committed to be married for some reasons.  What's the relation with Dauntless then? Apparently, this couple is BRAVE enough to take a step up of their relationship, they're brave enough to have a life together, but they're just not committed yet.  In conclusion they're brave to take a step up without committing anything.

Abnegation (Married)
Abnegations values selflessness, they forget themselves for the sake of others.  While couple who are married are the one who's committed themselves and gave their lives for reach other.  Basically, wedding vows sounds like "I, ____, take you, ____, to be my lawfully wedded(husband/wife), to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part."  That's their promise for each other and The Lord (for Christian) to stay together forever.  So this couple must of really love each other so much.  And this means that they're not just make a room for someone, but also want to spend the rest of their life with their partner! They forget themselves for the sake of their husband/wife and kids (They're shraring their life with each other as a family)!  THAT'S THE POINT!!! Isn't that wonderful :') ?!?!
Candor (In an Open Relationship)

Candor is a faction that values honesty above anything else.  So Candor is a faction that's familiar with the word 'openness'.    Couples who's in an open relationship means that they agree to be 'open' to each other they agree that they can also do something 'romantic' (more like something 'sexual') with someone else.  So the point is to be HONEST with each other instead of CHEATING (well, I think that's the same thing with different words if that's the case).  Because this is a Candor honesty part, can I just be genuiely honest about this? I REALLY DISAGREE WITH THIS IDEA!!  I don't mean to judge people who's in this kind of relationship, but I wonder how can someone do some 'romantic' things together without falling in love? That's just 'something'!

Factionless 

The Factionless is the people who doesn't fit in to any factions.  In this case, People who's categorized as The Factionless are more like the 'unhappy singles'.  I put factionless into 2 categories here.  People who are Friendzoned, and The Forever alone! Keep reading guys, I'll explain in details!  

Factionless Part 1 (Friendzoned)
Last but not least.  The topic that I'm so damn familiar with!! Ladies and Gentlemen, let me introduce you to THE FRIENDZONE!! WELCOME TO THE FRIENDZONE PEOPLE!!!!! Lol, just too excited for this well-experienced familiar topic! Oh well.. Let's know more about this.  But first of all I would like to apologies if I write something wrong on the previews topic.  To be honest, I NEVER BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP BEFORE!! SO I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT IT!! I just make some analysis about it based on my friend's relationships!! But FRIENDZONED?!?! Been there HEAPS OF TIMES!!  So I'm 99.9% sure that I'm gonna write a based on my own reality facts here!!. Basically, friendzone is a situation which a FRIENDSHIP exist between two people, but one of them has 'special' interest in the other.  Or maybe, both of them has that 'special' interest with each other, but they don't realizes it and ending up friendzoning each other xD!! Based on my description above, people who are friendzoned doesn't belongs to any faction above! They're just more like the Erudites who want to take a step up to Amity, but they failed.  If it's in a real Divergent situation, these people are like the Erudite-born who want to transfer to Amity, but they failed on their initiation process thing.  Does it make sense readers? *tell me if not * 

My Friendzone Story
To make it clear, let me share my 'friendzone story'.  Like I've said I've been friendzoned heaps of times, but there was 3 serious one thoe. The first time I got friendzoned is when I was 8, that's the first time I got comfortable feelings with someone.  Yes I admit it I feel like I'm in a whole new world when I'm around him, you know how I was treated at home right (I mention it on 'Panem' and 'By The Grace of God').  I feel all better around him, feels like escaping from reality to Wonderland.   I spend most of my times with him, we play video games together, go outdoors, watch movies, invite each other for lunch, text each other everyday, and sometimes we had sleepovers (remember, I was still 8 or 9 at that time x_x)!  That kind of 'friendship' happens for 5 years until I was 13.  We become a total stranger after that, maybe we won't even know each other if we meet today.  
The 2nd one is my Dungeon friendzone who friendzoned me for a year, and 3rd one is my Panem-District 13 friendzone who really stole my heart for 2 years, still kinda missed him to be honest :(.  I'm not gonna write much about them, because we actually still contact each other.  I don't want them to read this and finds out that I had some special feelings for them! Lol, that's awkward!! Maybe they might have a sudden heart attack after that!! If you know who am I talking about, then you're lucky enough because you must me one of my number one special BFF!!
After that is my 'short term friendzone era' (the friendzone situation that only last for a couple of weeks), there's some guys who I met socially, they make me comfortable, they act and talk so romantic, but they'll get bored of me and end up ignoring me after that.   
I'm tired of friendzone honestly.  Every night I prayed, wishing that one day I would find the right person and take 2 steps up from friendzone!  I hope he comes soon, just need more faith here :)
Factionless Part 2 (Forever Alone)
Last and the least,  FOREVER ALONE!!  This is somewhere that I definitely don't want to be in!! For me, it's the most miserable stage in this whole Faction Caste System!! Well, let me explain more about it.  Forever alone is the place where you're really giving up on love (no more hope! at all!).  You still at least have love for someone when you're in 'The Friendzone', but here? NOT AT ALL!! I wonder how could someone live with that.  Basically, this people who are Forever alone is the people who has been in Amity / Dauntless / Abnegation, but they failed.  That makes them traumatic about love.  They tried to be Erudite but they can't get over their old relationship and end up failing from Erudite.  They might spend the rest of their lives in there unless they tried to get out from that hell (there's still hope :D).  

Coming soon : My Relationship Goals